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Iyanla’s Spiritual Spa – Build Better Boundaries
June 3 @ 8:00 pm - 10:00 pm
What are boundaries?
A boundary is an imaginary line that separates me from you; your own invisible force field and you are in charge of protecting it.
You boundaries separate your physical space, your feelings, your needs, and your responsibilities from others. Your boundaries also tell other people how they can treat you — what’s acceptable and what isn’t.
Without boundaries, people may take advantage of you because you haven’t set limits about how you expect to be treated.
Strong boundaries protect your self-esteem, and your identity as an individual — with the right to make your own choices.
As important as this may sound, most of us have a difficult time setting healthy boundaries consistently. It may be difficult to identify when our boundaries are being crossed, or we may even fear the consequences to our relationships if we set them.
The reality is that boundaries provide physical and emotional safety by keeping out what feels uncomfortable or hurtful. They help to guard against stress, anxiety and depression, and protect your personal self by setting a clear line between what is me and what is not me.
Defining boundaries is a process of determining what behavior you will accept from others and what you will not…a lack of boundaries opens the door for others to determine your thoughts, feelings, and needs.
Setting good personal boundaries is critical to creating healthy relationship
That’s why we’re going to talk about how to Build Better Boundaries.
In this Spa, we will discuss:
- The distinction between a Boundary and a Wall
- 3 Types of Boundaries
- 3 Types of Corrupted Boundaries
- Moving Boundary
- Collapsed Boundary
- Enmeshed Boundary
- What prevents you from setting boundaries
- How to Create, Announce and Maintain a boundary
- 6 tips for Boundary Maintenance
Steps to build better boundaries begin with knowing and understanding what your own limits are; who you are, what you are responsible for, and, what you are not responsible for.
I am responsible for my happiness, my behavior, my choices, my feelings.I am not responsible for others happiness, other’s behaviors, other’s choices, and other’s feelings.
It’s time to let go of the need to fix others, to stop taking responsibility for the outcomes of others’ choices, end the quest to save or rescue others; let go of the need to be needed, stop changing yourself to be liked or depending on others’ approval.
Make a commitment to yourself to put your own identity, needs, feelings and goals first.
Start at the Spiritual Spa.